Alan Dubow

Alan M. Dubow

Divorce Mediator | Collaborative Divorce Attorney | Matrimonial & Family Law Attorney

White Plains, New York | Serving Westchester, Putnam, Dutchess, Rockland and Orange Counties and New York City
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Professional Overview

Alan M. Dubow is a Westchester County divorce mediator, collaborative divorce attorney, and matrimonial lawyer with more than four decades of experience resolving sophisticated family, financial, and civil disputes throughout New York.

Admitted to practice in New York in 1981, Mr. Dubow has spent his career handling matrimonial and family law matters, complex commercial litigation, real estate disputes, transactional business matters, trials, appeals, negotiation, and dispute resolution. In recent years, he has increasingly concentrated on divorce mediation and collaborative law, applying decades of courtroom experience to help individuals and families resolve difficult disputes outside traditional litigation.

His extensive litigation background provides valuable perspective during mediation. Mr. Dubow understands the financial cost, emotional strain, uncertainty, and loss of control that can accompany contested matrimonial litigation. He uses that experience to help parties evaluate legal and practical risks, identify settlement opportunities, and develop informed solutions involving divorce, parenting, support, equitable distribution, and complex financial matters.

Mr. Dubow has been selected to New York Super Lawyers for Family Law from 2021 through 2026 and has also been recognized by Lawyers of Distinction for his work in family and divorce law.
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Divorce Mediation & Family Conflict Resolution

Mr. Dubow helps couples and families resolve divorce and family disputes privately, constructively, and efficiently outside of traditional litigation.

He mediates matters involving:

• Divorce and matrimonial disputes
• Child custody and parenting disputes
• Parenting plans and co-parenting agreements
• Co-parenting issues
• Child support
• Spousal support
• Equitable distribution and asset division
• Complex financial divorce disputes
• Family conflict resolution
• Post-divorce disputes
• Pre-litigation disputes
• Court-referred mediation

His mediation practice is particularly well suited for parents seeking child-focused resolutions, professionals and executives concerned about privacy, families seeking to reduce conflict, and couples who want greater control over the outcome of their divorce rather than leaving important decisions to the court.

Mr. Dubow recognizes that divorce and family disputes involve more than legal questions. Financial pressures, emotional stress, communication breakdowns, parenting concerns, and long-term family relationships can all affect the parties' ability to reach agreement.

His goal is to help parties move beyond adversarial positions and identify realistic, informed, and sustainable solutions.
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Child Custody & Parenting Matters

Mr. Dubow has extensive experience with child custody, parenting agreements, co-parenting disputes, and other family-related conflicts.

These matters may involve:
• Parenting schedules
• Parenting plans
• Co-parenting communication
• Custody disputes
• High-conflict parenting matters
• Child-focused settlement planning
• Family transition issues
• Post-divorce parenting disputes

His approach emphasizes respectful communication, structured negotiation, child-centered problem-solving, and practical parenting solutions designed to reduce conflict and promote greater long-term family stability.
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Collaborative Divorce

Mr. Dubow is a trained collaborative attorney and an active member of the New York collaborative-law community.

Collaborative divorce provides couples with an alternative to traditional adversarial litigation by emphasizing transparency, structured negotiation, professional cooperation, and mutually developed solutions.

Mr. Dubow is a member of both the International Association of Collaborative Professionals and the New York Association of Collaborative Professionals. His involvement with NYACP has included participation in Westchester collaborative-law programming, organizational initiatives, and professional discussions regarding developments affecting New York matrimonial practice.

Collaborative divorce may be particularly useful when parties want to resolve:
• Parenting arrangements
• Property and asset division
• Support obligations
• Complex financial concerns
• Long-term family issues

while maintaining greater privacy and control over the process.
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Matrimonial Litigation, Trial & Appellate Experience

Mr. Dubow's work as a mediator and collaborative attorney is informed by more than four decades of litigation experience.

His legal background includes:
• Matrimonial and divorce litigation
• Family law and domestic relations matters
• Child custody disputes
• Equitable distribution and financial matters
• Complex commercial litigation
• Real estate litigation and transactions
• Business law
• Trial advocacy
• Appellate advocacy

He has appeared extensively in the New York Supreme Courts in Westchester, Putnam, Dutchess, Orange and Rockland Counties, as well as courts in New York City and the federal courts.

Mr. Dubow has also practiced extensively before the New York appellate courts and has successfully argued numerous matters before both the Appellate Division, First Department and Second Department.

This experience gives him an important perspective in mediation: he understands what happens when settlement is not reached. That allows him to help parties realistically evaluate litigation risk, cost, uncertainty, and settlement alternatives when making important family and financial decisions.
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Mediation Philosophy

Mr. Dubow believes many family disputes can be resolved more effectively through informed negotiation, respectful communication, and structured mediation rather than prolonged and emotionally draining litigation.

His approach emphasizes:
• Practical and efficient resolution
• Informed decision-making
• Party control over outcomes
• Privacy and confidentiality
• Constructive communication
• Reduced emotional and financial strain
• Durable, workable agreements
• Forward-looking solutions

Drawing on decades of matrimonial and litigation experience, he works to help parties resolve disputes with dignity, stability, and a practical focus on the future.