I could file for divorce in either Connecticut or New York. How do I decide which state?
Direct Answer
If you and your spouse have a genuine connection to either state — for example, your primary residence is either in New York or Connecticut — you may have a choice of where to file, and that choice can matter. The two states differ in how they handle property division, spousal support, and the timeline of a divorce, so the more favorable forum depends on your specific circumstances.
If you and your spouse have a genuine connection to either state — for example, your primary residence is either in New York or Connecticut — you may have a choice of where to file, and that choice can matter. The two states differ in how they handle property division, spousal support, and the timeline of a divorce, so the more favorable forum depends on your specific circumstances. This is a decision worth making deliberately, with counsel who is licensed in both states and can compare how each would treat your particular situation, rather than defaulting to whichever state feels more familiar. Because residency and jurisdictional requirements must be satisfied before filing, this is best addressed early.
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Wendy E. Prince
Wendy E. Prince, Esq. is a Connecticut- and New York-licensed family law attorney, divorce mediator, and collaborative divorce professional with more than 25 years …
Reviewed August 8, 2026
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